A few days ago, we all rang in a new year. With that, people often make resolutions to achieve or follow. A new year is like a clean slate—a blanket of freshly-fallen snow, just waiting to be altered. An empty canvas of possibility. While any resolution can be an admirable goal, I’d like to challenge you this year to make at least one resolution that will allow you to enhance your sense of self-worth. A great way to do this is to take an already-existing resolution and alter your perspective on it. Check out some of the examples below.
Your goal: Lose twenty pounds.
Self-Worth goal: Learn to love your body every step of the way.
If you have a fitness goal this year, that’s amazing! Congratulations! However, consider enhancing your fitness goal by understanding that your body is beautiful the way it is, and it will be beautiful at every stage between now and your goal. Look in the mirror and verbally tell yourself that you’re beautiful. Do this at least once every day. It’s much easier to attain a goal when the road is paved with kindness rather than hate. Be kind to yourself, and you’ll achieve your fitness goal faster and with more positive feelings throughout.
Your goal: Be more financially responsible.
Self-Worth goal: Understand the difference between a want and a need.
If your goal for the new year is more financially-related, congratulations! To help you achieve it, identify the difference between the things you want and the things you need. Make a list if that’s helpful to you. Scale back your life by indulging in as few wants as possible while focusing more on the needs. When you have money left over, save it for a rainy day. This will help you smooth the transition between living an indulgent lifestyle and drawing back to live more within your means. Budget things out. And make sure you give yourself a little gift every day. It could be a cup of coffee or a moment of quiet before you start your day. A small thing you have been wanting for a long time. A few bites of ice cream. A date with your significant other—or with yourself! We all deserve to be built up with little gifts. One indulgence a day will allow you to focus less on what you lack and more on what you have.
Your goal: Spend more time with your family or friends.
Self-Worth goal: Figure out a sustainable work/life balance.
If your goal is to enhance your relationships with the people around you, then that’s fantastic! Congratulations! Family and friends are incredibly important for everybody, and connecting with them on a regular basis can have unparalleled benefits for your mental and emotional health. To make this goal more holistically attainable, find and maintain a healthy work/life balance. Work consumes a good deal of our time. But, if you leave your work at the office and don’t take the burdens of the day home with you, then you will be better able to appreciate your loved ones. Additionally, it will reduce your stress levels by compartmentalizing your responsibilities, which will enable you to approach life with renewed energy.
Your goal: Eat more healthily.
Self-Worth goal: Understand the concept of moderation, not deprivation.
If your goal is about nutrition, congratulations! That’s great! However, achieving nutrition goals is much easier when you don’t try to cut out an entire class of foods—especially once you love! If you love chocolate, keep a little bit of chocolate in the house. I keep a pint of ice cream. Whenever I just have to have something sweet, I have a couple of bites and then put it back in the freezer. If you try to completely remove things you like from your diet, it will be extremely difficult to stay on track with your goal. And, if you fall off track, you’ll likely fall very hard. So rather than depriving yourself of things you love, practice self-control and moderation rather than excess. This will help you achieve your goal with much more positive feelings toward your progress.
No matter your goal, there is a way to approach it that will foster a greater sense of self-worth. My challenge to you is to keep this in mind as you set goals moving into this year. Resolutions are notoriously tricky to keep, but if you go into it with a broader perspective, you will not only achieve your goal, but it will be much less of a fight.
Happy New Year on behalf of the entire Body Love Studios team! We hope 2019 is a year for you to grow in confidence and self-love.