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Finding Femininity

A few months ago I was contacted by a women who was "at a crossroads" as she described.  She wanted a boudoir session, but-"Here's the thing...I am a breast cancer survivor and I'm currently in the process of going through breast reconstruction from a double mastectomy that I had in April" she writes.  She felt as though without her breasts, she was somehow less beautiful-less a woman.  She asked if she should wait until after her full reconstruction to come in.  I died inside when I read those words. 

I leaped out of bed and yelled "No!  No!  Come in Now!  Let me help you see!"  After regaining composure, I wrote her back and convinced her to come in.  You see, I don't think it’s your breasts-or your hair- or your hips- or butt-or waistline that makes you beautiful and feminine.  I think its many things that makeup a woman.  As the great Maya Angelou put it "It’s the fire in my eyes, And the flash of my teeth, The swing in my waist, And the joy in my feet. I’m a woman phenomenally."

After chatting back and forth, we decided on a date for her to come in.  It just so happened to be in October-breast cancer awareness month!  I spoke to my make-up artist Lisa Whittington and set out to find a hair stylist who would be willing to donate time and talent, to help us treat our very deserving survivor.  Within 24 hours of putting out the call, I got a message from Doni, the owner of The Loft Salon in Prince Frederick and LaPlata, who offered her services.

 Doni- The Loft Salon, Lisa -Make-up and Tina -our Survivor

Doni- The Loft Salon, Lisa -Make-up and Tina -our Survivor

Before she came in, I had envisioned this artistic creation of a women standing there draped in fabric holding out a flower where her breast once was.   Soon after meeting her, I knew, this is not what she wanted, nor what she needed.   She just wanted a boudoir session.  A moment to feel pampered, to feel sexy again, to feel beautiful.  

We started off with more of a glamour session, which is more conservative, and allows women to get comfortable in-front of the camera.  

 " The most beautiful view is the one I share with you" -unknown

"The most beautiful view is the one I share with you" -unknown

As we moved along, she became more comfortable with me, and I saw her start to change.  I could tell she was feeling good, and a little different about herself.  Her beautiful smile became genuine, she now had a spark in her eye.

  "Beauty of whatever kind, in its supreme development, invariably excites the sensitive soul to tears." -Edgar Allan Poe

"Beauty of whatever kind, in its supreme development, invariably excites the sensitive soul to tears." -Edgar Allan Poe

It was time for her next outfit change, she brought lingerie.  I could FEEL her hesitation, you could almost hear her inner dialog giving her the motivation to move completely outside her comfort zone.  She looked amazing, and just as-if not more, beautiful than any other women I have photographed.

 "what makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful" - Unknown

"what makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful" - Unknown

As the session came to an end, I had only hoped to make her feel what she had longed to feel.  I hoped that she left there knowing that know matter what she is an amazing, strong, brave, beautiful, sexy, feminine-DIVA of a woman!  

  "Today is a day that I let my guard down and left my concerns about m  y body image at the door. I will never forget the amazing experience. Thank you so much Michelle, Doni and Lisa....I have never felt so beautiful in my life ♡" - Tina

"Today is a day that I let my guard down and left my concerns about my body image at the door. I will never forget the amazing experience. Thank you so much Michelle, Doni and Lisa....I have never felt so beautiful in my life ♡" - Tina

XOXO

Michelle

Clique Boudoir Photography